Trixi movin' on up...

[Dom R]

I truly meant date, not sex. I assume you were just trying to point at the "what's good for the goose, is good for the gander" isn't always the best way to approach decisions and that you needed to use sex as the extreme example to get your point across.

yup.

I am getting more and more moments of anger towards H (as opposed to just sadness). I guess we'll see how tomorrow goes.

I used to get that more, during my first year of separation (1st year? SIGH....) That was when I was listening more to people who kept pushing me, "you should stand up for yourself! you should do ... !!!!"

For some people, and some relationships, their advice may actually have worked. However, I know that my situation is different, and I know specific reasons WHY it is different.
Even so.... i let my emotions be pulled by those other people.
With disasterous results for my marriage at times.

With the way your husband has treated you, I'd say you have fair reason to be angry at him.
Just be sure that it is really your anger, not proxied from other people.