Hi there Brita...again, my sitch sounds similiar! Its a bit lengthier though, I threw it all down, to get advice...and it does help.
I've known my partner 12 years and we've been together for 9 and he too was a loving and kind attentive, devoted partner until last June, when he withdrew, but was still here...I got the bomb on 2 Nov and he moved out 15th. Funny when you say you had dinner and a nice chat and you didnt mention the R..that reminds me, back then, we went to the pub after the bomb a few nights and had great time, I made dinner every night and he talked about himself mainly, his family, his work, and I didnt bring up the R, we drank wine and all was as if nothing had happened..until things started deteriotating and he got more resolute...
You sound quite calm, so maybe it hasnt hit you yet...it didnt hit me until Christmas week, when it became clear from his increasing distance and lack of contact that he REALLY meant it.
He said he was going to get an apartment, but so far hasnt I dont think. We had contact every other day and he texted and phoned, although looking back it was only ever in response to contact from me..and now I see it was only becuase he felt guilty. I clung on and kept contacting him till Christmas, when his guilt was so great, he'd got to the point of not being able to look at me and barely being able to talk. So I stopped C him and lo and behold, he stopped contacting me. Everyone here says that its best to be strong and patient and do not contact him. So that where I'm at now...NC.
as soon as you can, let him go, let him do what he needs to. But dont beat yourself if you cant do it yet...took me 2 months!
