My best advice is to take time for yourself, to do things for yourself and to GAL. Get your mind off of it as much as you can.
Thanks CAIZ - good advice, sometimes it is easier than others. Need it today as W called to discuss the 401-k division and suggested an attorney would be better, in part to 'take the emotion out of it'.
I reluctantly agreed at this point. Told her to do what she has to do. I sensed a little emotion in her voice. I called her back 5 minutes later and left a message (on her cell), but 1.5 hrs later - no response. Oh well, sorry to borrow the thread. Heading to a college basketball game with friends tonight as I continue to GAL.
Me: 48 Ex-W: 45 M: Nov '96, together since Oct 93 Bomb: on 10-yr anni - Nov '06 OM Separated: mid-Feb '07 Divorced mid-July '08 One daughter - 28 XW living w/OM