W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

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I know a couple that got back after 1.5 years in D and before it was final. I see 0 remorse from the W even 10 years later - she thinks she was 100% justified because she was "hurting" and the only way she would get "heard" is to "hurt" him back. The H wisely just keeps his cool to this day.

Remember we men are from Mars and are not supposed to fee "hurt" by all the garbage thrown at us - it fact we aren't supposed to have "feelings" but we are supposed to "validate" our W's feelings all the time while we are processing a 100 other demands. It would be helpful to get feedback directly from the wise women on this board as to how to approach this sitch or we may be missing the point and going off along the wrong track.