H is so silly not to be with me, I'm actually pretty great!
That is so true- you are great! You would also be Queen of Puddings Essie (see my thread!)
Originally Posted By: Essie
From today I will wait another 30 days before I initiate any more contact I think.
Do you think I'm on the right track?
I think you are being so strong and centered in your DBing and am really inspired by it. especially given I haven't even managed to go a week NC!
I am still wondering whether your H might feel as though a barrier to contacting you has been lowered by your friendly and non-pressured contact/text. So perhaps he will initiate some contact himself as a result. It would definitely be interesting to see if that is the case. Sometimes setting rules/fixing time periods prevents us from making adaptive changes when we need to- and we can tend to get fixated on the end, rather than the journey. I think good DBing is about the journey in many ways though- learning about ourselves and making adaptive changes as and when necessary.
So....do you think might be worth seeing if the contact you made precipitates any change over the next week or two and then decide on a rule on initiating any more contact after that? Just my $0.02!
