Long and Bumpy Road #3

[JennyF]

Hey SO2,
I can totally understand you being aprehensive, but I do think it is a good sign. He may be cycling, but that is also a good sign because he's at least peeking out.

I would perhaps tell him that you are glad to hear this, but need a day or two to think about things.
I would spend some time really thinking about what you want. Read DR again and put down the specifics of what you want.
ie, no drinking, marrige counselling, proof that OW is out of the picture (I personally would want to have a conversation with her), etc. However...it also may take him take time to really let go mentally of OW, even if they aren't seeing eachother any more...so you may need to be patient with this one. Let him know you support him and you know it will be hard, but it is necessary if there is going to be a chance for you two.

Read the part in DR about Ask For What You Want.
You still have your head on straight and the key is to keep it on straight. You're in the drivers seat and you can decide how this should go. It's on your terms.

Tell him you want to proceed slowly and that you're going to need time to really believe his intentions his are genuine. That his actions are going to have to SHOW you he wants this to work...not just words.


By the way...I think that backing off of him worked. So keep that in mind as you proceed. Don't jump all over him about everything. Go slow and try to validate.

That's my 2 cents worth!
I think this is great...I'd give ANYTHING to get a text like this from my H. Is a place to start from.
Good luck!
J~