Craig - I can see it, you can see it, he just can't... Part of me thinks that when we get through this and he accepts it as part of our past and can start trying to forgive me, that i'll probably start being more attracted to him. Right now, it's getting annoying.
Dave - Hi! I know for a fact that he's trying to get attention. I actually think that his LL is WOA and PA. He wouldn't read the book, so that is my best shot... I know he's feeling insecure. He's been feeling that way since long before the EA only i didn't realize it then. then it was just him being mean and hurtful and accusing me of cheating. Now I realize it's been insecurity all along. I am constantly reassuring him, that i love him, that I'm not going anywhere. He said he doesn't trust anything I say. He said that last night. I know it's only been 4 and a half months since the EA ended, but for me, it's already been 4 and a half months. The EA is never justified or excusable and he has as much time as he needs to be able to get past it and forgive, but He asked for D. He started living out of his office, he hurt me over and over again for over a year and I wanted to work on it, he wanted out. Then he came back and said he didn't want D.
Now i can't do anything right. Nothing I do seems to help and if anything starts a fight. I'm running out of things to try and just about running out of the will power to keep trying. I'm certainly not going anywhere, but I really don't see our M getting out of this hole until he is able to start working on him. -
Sorry Dave... just venting. I really do try to be encouraging to him and thank him and tell him nice things. He does get physical affection from me, back and foot rubs/massages, running my fingers through his hair, stuff like that. Sex is not like it used to be, but as much as i can give (and sometimes more) for right now. Is there anything that your W did after EA that helped you get past the insecurities? Anything you think I could do? I really want to help him any way i can!
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If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
I know for a fact that he's trying to get attention. I actually think that his LL is WOA and PA. He wouldn't read the book, so that is my best shot... I know he's feeling insecure. He's been feeling that way since long before the EA only i didn't realize it then. then it was just him being mean and hurtful and accusing me of cheating. Now I realize it's been insecurity all along. I am constantly reassuring him, that i love him, that I'm not going anywhere. He said he doesn't trust anything I say. He said that last night. I know it's only been 4 and a half months since the EA ended, but for me, it's already been 4 and a half months. The EA is never justified or excusable and he has as much time as he needs to be able to get past it and forgive, but He asked for D. He started living out of his office, he hurt me over and over again for over a year and I wanted to work on it, he wanted out. Then he came back and said he didn't want D. 
