ndark, have you read the book "Getting Back Together: How To Reconcile With Your Partner - And Make It Last"? It may be helpful for you to determine what to do.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.