(Mojo) ...so that's why I say it's a "conspiracy" or a choice when we interact like goofy romantic 7th graders.
Conspiring to act like 7th graders is a lot different than conspiring to have a relationship at a 7th grade level, which is what you originally said.
Nothing wrong with a fun and interesting LDR but I can't fathom why either of you would want it to be exclusive. This is MWoC writ large and even writ small you said that would be an untenable situation for any woman.
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Conspiring to act like 7th graders is a lot different than conspiring to have a relationship at a 7th grade level, which is what you originally said.
True. Surely you didn't believe I meant that. I want to do a little bit more than french-kissing with the guy - lol.
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Nothing wrong with a fun and interesting LDR but I can't fathom why either of you would want it to be exclusive. This is MWoC writ large and even writ small you said that would be an untenable situation for any woman.
I'm going to assume that LDR stands for low demand or low drama or something like that. Once again, I should note that he is the one pushing for exclusivity, not me. Why? My guess would be "because he likes me". Why? According to him "because I am hot." You do the rest of the boy math and let me know the answer to the equation.
I didn't say that any MWoC sich would be untenable for any woman. I just said that the one that you described would be. Of course, I might have just been projecting my personal lack of desire to be in a MWoC sich that left me mostly without male recreational companionship on the weekends. I guess if I had a lot of gay friends it might be okay. Still, the only reason that I would choose to be in a MWoC relationship would be that I was not ready/willing or able to be in a "real" relationship. Therefore, my evident tendency to fall into one by default at the moment (sigh).
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(Mojo) I'm going to assume that LDR stands for low demand or low drama or something like that.
Long Distance Relationship.
Of course, I might have just been projecting my personal lack of desire to be in a MWoC sich that left me mostly without male recreational companionship on the weekends.
Doesn't your sitch with FSG leave you mostly without male recreational companionship on the weekends?
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Doesn't your sitch with FSG leave you mostly without male recreational companionship on the weekends?
Okay, clearly, I am in a bit of a passive mode and I haven't exactly thought things through. FSG's tentative plan is to fly me out once a month for the weekend. He does not think this plan is ideal because he is HD which is why I suggested non-exclusivity to which he replied "I don't care if you don't claim me. I claim you." Apparently he is reading simple common sense on my part as "playing hard to get" or something like that. REALLY it is freakin' ridiculous for me to even be wasting one minute of typing on contemplating/analyzing a relationship that is so very very very proto. I think the one thing I can honestly say is that I do prefer to be in a relationship that is open-ended and fluid rather than pre-determined and defined at the moment. If I end up with a hot weekend that's cool. If I end up with a long-distance f*ck-buddy then that's cool until it's not. If I end up in a torrid love affair then that's hot until it's not. If I end up in a successful, passionate LTR then obviously that would be great. BUT I'm not trying for anything in particular.
Oh yeah, I should add that if I just end up with a very funny story to tell my HD granddaughter about the ancient days of internet dating then that's cool too - lol at image of me as crazy granny.
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(Mojo) REALLY it is freakin' ridiculous for me to even be wasting one minute of typing on contemplating/analyzing a relationship that is so very very very proto.
How often is a "very very very proto" relationship exclusive? Do you see how I might wonder about a streetwise, successful, rich and attractive man who's chomping at the bit to be exclusive in a very very very proto LDR, even to the point of saying he'll be exclusive whether you are or not?
You, otoh, are at least lending credence to my newest pet theory which is that all single women are crazy (this supersedes my previous pet theory which was that you can't trust a single woman who doesn't want to be in a relationship).
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Do you see how I might wonder about a streetwise, successful, rich and attractive man who's chomping at the bit to be exclusive...
I can't imagine why you'd wonder...guys like that can never get dates.
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poor ba$tards are left with no choice but to troll the internet, looking for their next victim OOPS I mean "girlfriend" by sweet-talkin' poor lonely, unsuspecting LD-MILFs who live far, far away. yeah, happens all the time.
How often is a "very very very proto" relationship exclusive? Do you see how I might wonder about a streetwise, successful, rich and attractive man who's chomping at the bit to be exclusive in a very very very proto LDR, even to the point of saying he'll be exclusive whether you are or not?
Well, you wouldn't be wondering if my name was Scarlet Johannsen, now would you, hmmm?
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You, otoh, are at least lending credence to my newest pet theory which is that all single women are crazy (this supersedes my previous pet theory which was that you can't trust a single woman who doesn't want to be in a relationship).
This reminds me of the comedy routine I saw where the comedian had an endangered species heading on a picture of a single woman who was described as Attractive, Smart, Funny and Not Crazy. I'm willing to bet that if you took the Identity Test on OkCupid you would come up as somebody who is "deliberate" rather than "random" like me and that is why you think I am crazy.
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