I am sorry you are dealing with this. Take a deep breath. I agree with B. Get out and do something to clear your head. Find something that can take your mind off it the situation.
It's becoming more clear John, you love her. Follow B's advice. Take a deep breath. Time to make a plan. Let W fester a bit. And start working on john.
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs
john, i wish there was something i could say that would make youfeel better. only thing i can say is pray. the only thing that gets through the day is Gods love and comfort. seek him. pray for your wife. she needs prayer also. try not to dwell on negatives. concentrate on your daughter. take care.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
If you mean it - say the word. I'm sure craig and I (and about 20 other posters) will gladly point you in the right direction. But we can't make you want it.
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs
John, you are in my prayers. There is no emotion that you are feeling that we have not all felt, lived through, and become better people because of. It doesn't make it better, but know that we understand and with God there is a way! LadyDi
You have to be real strong right now. Time is your friend. Dont make any decisions like packing and leaving that you will regret later. You say it yourself - "I am in such a funk that I can hardly function". Dont make any decisions, because John, you are letting your emotions control you now.
Talk to some friends. Seek the advise from your minister or priest. Take a short vacation. Go do some things to make yourself happy. Get away from it all. Think this through. Give it time and your thoughts will become much more clear. Maybe you can learn to forgive your W for an A if she is willing to reconcile. This is something you need to ponder on for a while.
Just keep in mind that your W is going through some deep thinking also. If you back off, she may get some clarity and see what she is doing is wrong.
i plan to back way off (move in with my parents)...lrt or after lrt...i think that is all i have left because she won't even admit she is having an A. She won't even admit she was in Paris. I am not going to push for more info., but at this point i am leaning towards leaving. I may be making a mistake but staying home has not yielded any results so far. knowing what i know right now, i would feel like a doormat if i stayed. i figure i have 48 hrs, to decide and we are supposed to talk this weekend. she will probably spell out what she wants going forward and i will probably agree.
by the way i really appreciated phil's suggestions last night but it did not yield anything. w probably knows i know but is not yet ready to admit it. still don't know what kind of person sends i miss you messages when they are with someone else. i guess i must bring her something and the om brings her something else.
Someone who misses you and is very confused is who. Please check out rejoicemisnistries.org before making any decisions. Leaving is always an option, but rarely the answer. I know - I left and have regretted that decision every day for over a year. I know it hurts. Getting run over by a truck probably hurts less - although I've never been run over by a truck. Just take deep cleansing breaths, go for long walks. Pray, pray, and pray some more.
If you can afford it, make an appointment with the DB telephone counselors. Give yourself some time. This is mind blowing and life altering stuff. Don't do anything rash. Take care of yourself physically. Get some sleep.
