Friend of mine (guy) was miffed that I am 'seeing' my H. He had to laugh as he said "how many times have I told you not to sleep with your husband?!" but he added on "so, you're willing to sleep with him while he looks for someone that he *does* want to be married to?" and also "you should go out on dates--at least if you start to date someone, they actually *want* to be in a relationship with you." As Austin Powers would say - "Ouch, baby. Very Ouch."
Obviously, he wants to date you, and he's "miffed" that he's missing out on a shot at you.
Guys who you "know", dont give advice like that, unless they are looking to date you. That's a typical underhanded approach. Women they are interested in, is involved with someone else? Then if they see an opening, undercut that guy, in the guise of "friendship" towards you. it both cuts down their rival, AND makes it seem like they are "looking out for you". Especially effective when the woman is married. "oh, you poor dear, your husband is abusing you/doesnt deserve you/blahblahblah..."
If he left it at the first bit, that would be one thing. But encouraging you to date, i'd say is a giveaway.
Last edited by Dom R; 01/17/0806:12 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
