I think I can get away with it. I've been a military history buff for all the time H has known me, and this sounds something like the charge of the light brigade.
H and I don't live in the same house, but he does visit here regularly. We are reconciling while separated, things going well, steadily forward.
I agree with you totally about not showing pain -- absolutely not good tactics. If you are still in pain, I have a lot of empathy. When this first started for me I felt like I'd had an amputation without benefit of anaesthetic. But this is the second time around for me, it happened twice in my first marriage. This time I decided to fight, to treat the thing as if it was a military campaign. Discipline, tactics, courage, willingness to take few flesh wounds to gain some ground -- it had the effect of removing me from my feelings quite a bit and I began enjoying the campaign after awhile. Also, I'm 63 years old -- there aren't many adventures still left at this age, so might as well enjoy whatever ones come my way!
