Thanks. Yeah, she was there for about two years, and I just lived with it, not knowing what was wrong. I have faith, but I've been praying more for help in survivng this, ratehr than saving my marriage these days. No contact with her whatsoever.
OK. Question of the day. I often have trouble coentrating this late at night (it’s 848PM here!) I am over the 6 month mark here in Iraq. Six more months and I head home. I have not so much as even discussed with W. what will be awaiting me when I get home. I don’t even attempt to speak with W. nor she with me.
I have no home or apartment now. Those of you who follow me know that right or wrong, I’m sending all my salary and benefits home. I will go home and I’m expecting to face a divorce shortly upon wheels down in America.
My W. has done the fiancés forever. Like a lot of guys, I turned the checks from two jobs over to her, and she managed all banking, so of course, I’m totally clueless to our finances.
Let’s say she fills for divorce. I will need an attorney. I don’t know what the savings look like now, because D17’s school was about 10K a month for 10 months. She went to a school in Utah for completely out of control kids, and graduated last month. I’m great at my jobs, but when it comes to finances; clueless.
We currently have a home valued at about 700K. My kids are firmly entrenched in school, and I hate to uproot them if (when!) this occurs. Buying two smaller houses in our town is out of the question. The cost of living is ridiculous.
My state is pretty much 50/50 in settlements. I’m not suer we have a lot of savings at this point. Where do I get the money for an attorney? Even if I save here, once you file, all accounts become locked, correct? I hate to go scorched earth on my kids, and sell the house, but what else do I do? Any suggestions?
