Cat03- I was not served formally-she brought the papers to me in person (which nearly killed her)and I replied on 12/6/07. We established separate accounts back in December. Her paycheck is still being deposited in our joint account rather than her individual account which would make sense to me if she truly wanted to be on her own.
I need to understand her "tentativeness" in this whole process. She visited a lawyer in October and filed in Novemeber. I am having a hard time figuring out if she is having second thoughts or is just having anxiety of her own about separating.
One thing to note is that when we told our 17,19 S, we told them we were separating not that their mother had filed for divorce from their father. It has been about a month since we told them we were separating and have gotten some pretty negative feedback from our children about it. I am growing anxious about not telling them the truth and I know my WAW is very concerned about the reaction when the truth is told.
Do I push for "closure" on this issue? Or do I let my WAW control the timing of the D announcement and whether or not I say it was a joint decision. Therapists has said it is important for me not to appear "wounded" and to tell the kids it was a joint decision to divorce even though it wassn'.
