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Have you been diagnosed for depression? most of the WAS here leave because they feel this emptiness inside and dont' feel happy...overall. I highly recommend you seek a therapist, depression is the reason people do things that otherwise they wouldnt' do (affairs, leaving, etc)

First of all, get a marriage councelor, I am almost sure she will agree to that. There have got to be other troubles in your other than the fact that you might be depressed, you just dont' leave from one day to another, there are prob issues between you two that were never addressed and thus you guys grew appart throughout the years. It takes a lot of time to rebuild trust, she has been hurt so she is afraid, not afraid of commitment, give her some credit, it is a big blow to have your spouse tell you they are leaving, it is scary to trust again.

I see a lot of hope in your sitch, please, remember that we all heal at our own pace, the fact that you are beyond the fact that you left doesn't mean that she is, women remember longer. Piecing back a M takes a lot of work, and patience, it is a road in which you take 1 step forward and 2 backwards. But it will be pay off, and your your M can become even better and stronger than before.