So I think we are telling our S in 5 days. I say think bc it keeps changing. H was moving out on the 14th. Then bc he is out of town this week, 1/16-1/20, he told the movers to come on the 21st. So he pushed his lease back to start on 1/21. He will go meet the furniture movers on the 21st, then I don't know if he is telling S with me that night, or not. Tues. 1/22 he has bowling and never gets done until S is in bed. So if we don't tell him Monday, we won't tell him until Wed. H is really dragging his feet, says he "dreads" telling our S. I am wondering what will happen to H emotionally when he physically "moves in" to his apt. on Monday. Of course in my fantasy life he will have the great epiphany I have been hoping for, but I am CERTAIN that won't happen. He is a practical guy in some ways and I think that since he's already bought the furniture and signed the lease he will stick it out at least a month or two to justify making those purchases. Anyway he left yesterday on his trip at 5:30 a.m. Sent me a text around 10:30 am, and called to talk to me at 7:30 p.m. Then he called me again at 7:30 a.m. today to "see how I was doing/how things were going". So he is separating, but contacted me 3 times in 24 hours once he is physically out of the house? I know it is an out-of-state trip, not the actual separation, but still. He says he wants time and space and when he finally has it, he is contacting me repeatedly? Not that I mind, I am glad he is contacting me bc I planned to not contact him whatsoever while he was gone since he says he needs space. Anyway, we haven't rehearsed "the talk" yet, or filled out our visitation calendars that our MC suggested we fill out, and that we agreed to fill out. H's only comment was that he knows we "need" to do it, but he just doesn't want to, dreads it, etc. Question is, should I tell him I don't want him moving out until we have the calendar filled out for the rest of Jan. and Feb., and have rehearsed "the talk"? Or should I just wait until he says he is leaving and then ask him about those two things? I don't think he would just slink off without handling the preparations but you never know. I read the hesitancy as him not sure he wants to leave. But I can't push it or I will solidify his need to leave?? Any advice appreciated...
