Oh, I left this out last night. So W figures her ulcer and other medicial issues are attributable to me. Which I understand, but that still isn't ownership on her behalf.
She apologized again for the A last night and leaving the way she did. I tried to stop her, saying look, I'm not upset about I have forgiven you and your not in a condition to talk stressfull things, so leave it alone for now.
She then stated she realized something isn't right in her life, and she is seeing a psychologist. Already had one session. WOW! That blew me away, I can't beleive she is really working on herself. I told her I would support her in any way she needed with it and she was grateful.
After leaving some of the fog behind it is getting rather clear to see that W's love languages are quality time and words of affirmation. Not sure the order yet. I think those are tough ones to DB under because you can't really do LRT or semi-dark or anything with those.
I find if I'm around her, she seems to be cheerful usually and wants me to stay. So I'm going to take the lead on that and just see what happens.
She also asked if she could take S on a week long vacation to visit some family and recoup a little. But she was really nervous like I was going to say no and asked like a child asking daddy. I think she was pretty floored when I was like, that sounds like a lot of fun, I'm sure he would really enjoy that. You guys will have an awesome time. I didn't want to say why yes of course, like I was the gatekeeper or something. I wanted to let her know that she can make decisions and follow through with them.
