My W. was a very giving person, sometimes too much so. For instance, we lived next to an older couple who were raising their grand daughter since birth. Their daughter, the girl's mom had passed away. My w. took such a shining to this kid that she wanted to have her live with us when her grandparents died. It meant a lot to W., so I agreed to it, against my better judgment. It ended up not happening, but we even went to family court and fought against her crazy uncle, who ended up with custody. She lives for our kids. She really held the family together. She did all the shopping, bills, cooking. I did the typical "house things", but she planned all the social events, picnics, etc. I don't think that's too unusual, but she was very giving, too much so, and couldn't fathom that I was not exactly like that. She is a good and principled person. No doubt about that.
FLTC, man that is nice to read, you recognizing and say the positives in here. Good work buddy!
Clearly from what you wrote she has a big heart. We know its just drained completely dry. My wife is much the same but didn't get to the point your wife got. I suspect that she has softened up a little but tenses up when the two of you do have interactions. In other words, walking on eggshells as my wife puts it. So it's up to you to put yourself at ease first, be at ease during your interactions so she can slowly be at ease. Confidence in yourself, your changes and your future my friend, in other words faith.
Oh and I'm still waiting for that list of positives.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
