THE most important relationship and the one that has to be sorted out and clarified before anything else can happen is the R with yourself. The more you focus on yourself and how you are feeling and the less you worry about any reaction she might have until she has it, the better off you are. And it does become moment to moment instead of a constant regretting the past and fretting about the future. Whatever happens, it's better to live this way. I'm really talking to myself here...