FA - thanks for stopping by. Yeah, I'm trying to embrace the move as a fresh start. I think I read on the marriage builders website awhile ago that on of the best things you could do was move from where the other person is to a completely new state and start fresh. I'm excited about the prospect of starting fresh.

H went to work today and yesterday. So that's good. Wow! That is a 180 for me, thinking it's good that he goes to work. When he drops me off in the morning I even say to him - go to work today and I say it cheerfully. 180 baby. When he doesn't go I worry that he is running or hiding from something and I would much prefer that he face this stuff head on. I'm ok with not asking about it because I just remind myself that I wouldn't bother a roommate with annyoing questions of why he/she didn't go to work, why should I bother him. His decision. think roommmate...

Last night we were watching TV and somehow the topic of 5 years from now came up. Kinda like where do you see us in 5 years, etc. So I made a comment like I wonder if we'll still be together (it just slipped, I didn't really mean to say it, or maybe somewhere not so deep down I did want to say it just to see his reaction) and H looked at me, full of incredulity, and was surprised that I was even questioning it. I guess he's coming around. The last R talk we even had was before Thanksgiving in which I told him that he was free to make his own choices, free to do what he wanted, free of me. Prior to that our R talk was about how he couldn't commit to me and may never be able to commit to me. And now, 2 months later he's incredulous about me wondering aloud if we will still be together in 5 years???

I refuse to initiate an R talk and I don't really know that one is needed right now. His actions say a lot. I mean even for him to be looking at buying a home with me is huge. That is commitment.

Ahh...just another day in the life of piecing...

In other news, my Mom emailed me yesterday to tell me that one of her best friends just found out that her H has been having an A for FIVE years. FIVE. I was able to direct her to a few books and a little-known website some of us are so fond of ;\) Glad I could help her, yet a bittersweet gladness. Her friend said that my mom and I are the only 2 people that have supported her in her decision to stand. She's been in her M for 23 years - how do you *not* try after 23 years???

There are far to many of us out there...sad. really sad.

Me: 34
H: 39
M: 7 yrs
H A 12/05-8/07

If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley