ADVICE needed please, my DB coach recommeded just before x-mas that I send WAW a letter/card telling her why I was unhappy - it has nothing to do with her - to be sent basically now. However, events between x-mas and now make me apprehensive. As a brief review,
12/24 - WAW did not bring 5D to my house as planned basically because she was angry and wanted to hurt me.
1/6 - WAW calls and we have pleasant and enjoyable conversation about 5D and no us.
1/7 - I enroll 5D in dance class and WAW finds out. She notices a change in me saying, "I am just very surprised, you wouldn't have done this before." "I am surprised you could", "You know you cannot replace me".
1/14 - WAW calls twice regarding 5D church clothes. Then, at WAW house we have very pleasant, enjoyable conversation, she shared rough week, hurt foot, dog sick, plans for the day, etc...and later when I said, "you look really cute", she said, "why thank you." I put flowers on porch later to validate her rough week with a note, "Here's hoping you have a better week."
1/16 - WAW calls and we have a great conversation full of laughter about her work sitch. She shares more about her job and schedule on Friday. She offers to swap days with my B-day, etc...About 20 minute conversation.
This has all happened while I am attempting to be dark. She breaks it with calls that could wait. She has not been angry with me since 12/24. She does not have to share nearly as much as she is now. She could just say, "I cannot keep 5D friday, can you do it?". Instead, she shares her life and even says she prefers me to keep 5D vs her mother. My point is she is talking with me more than necessary especially, if you want a D and don't want anything to do with me.
So, I guess I am unsure what to do. More time? Hard to know what to do based on about 30 minutes of contact a week but...she is not angry and is talking some now. I was thinking a card at the end of next week. Short and brief describing why I was unhappy and why I did what happened on the day of the last straw. From my point of view and then I put myself in her shoes. Again brief. I really feel like the contents would make a huge impact on her, but it would bring up the past and thus I am concerned that she might get angry again. If I wait longer than end of next week then my B-Day comes around and I think the card loses some value.
Meanwhile, I am still leaving her alone and I am not initiating contact. I am giving her the space it is clear she wanted. I guess I am unsure if now is the time or to wait more.
