Ann & Corri,

I don't have a lot of time and I'm not sure what help I can be because I'm really just hitting the tip of the ice berg myself so Corri, feel free to jump in and save me on this one. k?

Most everyone on here knows a little about my background, but since Ann is new on here, I'm going to give her a condensed version because it's a little necessary to show my point.

Typical story...married 7 years...couple of kids...sex early on seemed great...things were good...I considered myself HD...considered husband HD...GREAT!! match made in heaven, right?? Wrong! {well, maybe not wrong...I still think we are meant to be, just taking a different road now ;\) }

A couple of years ago, things started to go south in the sex department. It just was exciting..or..or fulfilling for me anymore. I mean it was ok, but I didn't desire to have it. Sex had become a routine. A routine that I basically could do without. Had I become LD? ehh, I don't know. I just didn't know what I wanted. I DID know that I didn't want the type of sex that we were having and it basically equated to me thinking that I had lost desire in not only sex, but my husband as well. It led us to the verge of divorce.

About 6 months ago, my husband came on these boards. I don't want to make a long story longer by going into details about what all he did....he made changes to himself. Maybe a better way of putting it is...he FOUND himself! The desire for him that I thought had died, returned. Sex was great again. I thought "WOW! I'm HD again." But slowly things started getting routine again, only this time I could sense it...my husband could sense it. We KNEW what the problem was but didn't know quite how to fix it.

Corri recommended a web-site and my husband went to it. It was a web-site that approached sex in a different way. He tried it out on me...no expectations, open mind...OMG! I was floored!! I had found what I needed in sex, what I WANTED in sex. It was different..it wasn't the routine sex that we had been having. I crave different

When I say "different" & "routine"...I'm not talking about postions or toys or whatever, although...as Corri pointed out to me, that it CAN be about or include these. The key to what I'm trying to say is that YOU need to find what YOU want out of sex...and ask for it, or better yet...just do it and see what his reaction is. Maybe for you it is a new position or toy or whips & ropes {BTDT } We stumbled upon what Miss IC wants...What does Ann want? Find THAT...whatever it is and see what happens with your desire.

Ok, I gotta run. I'll try to check in later & more often but things are crazy right now!

Corri, How did I do? I know you KNOW what I'm trying to say but like I said, I'm still struggling myself to find "IT" \:\)