Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[BeingMe]

Happy Birthday, FA! I hope you had a good day, despite the situation you find yourself in!

It is so hard to deal with all the emotions surrounding your M, and the betrayal, etc., when you are dealing with financial issues, and your H not having a job. Perhaps it might be a good idea to make a list of priorities, and things you want to deal with, and what order you want to do so. Maybe you will be able to see on paper, what you need to do, and it will all seem so much less scary. You could even give each thing a time to be completed. The list could look like this:

1. Do best I can at work, so that D's home is secure ... ongoing.
2. Help H find a job, or be supportive of him when he goes for interviews ... next three months, and then assess.
3. Continue with counselling ... next year.
4. Continue with GAL activities ... ongoing.
5. Find ways to detach from H's issues, and work on my own ... ongoing, but taking stock every month or so.
6. Plan mental time-out activity to regroup ... once a week for an hour (I find this a good time to meditate and reflect on good things in my life ... a time of affirmation).

Anyway, this is just an example of what you could be doing, and maybe you are doing this already. Coming here is like journalling too, and it's good to have all these wonderful people to bounce ideas off of, and vent to.

Thinking of ya!