What have you, in the past, told me when it appeared that I would make excuses for XW? Now stop making excuses for her and start rebuilding Frank D. This is no longer about her nor you and her, this is about you. Your right, you will be OK. And some of us will follow you through hell and back to make sure if it.
You're right of course, there are no more excuses to be made for her. She has a responsibility to the marriage also.
But one thing you pointed out in our talk tonight bears repeating: I stood for her when she was having an affair and being destructive to herself and the kids. I used my last ounce of strength to bring her back from that abyss, after she was sure she had destroyed everything. The fact that I loved and sacrificed selflessly for someone who was hurting me is something I can and should be proud of.
As you said to me - "Only you could have done that. She doesn't really appreciate it or understand what your sacrifice meant"
No, she doesn't. If she did we would be in therapy now instead of where we are.
