I am new to this Board. Having some problems of my own. When I read these posts I cringe. These women apparently did nothing, and we are all so concerned about the husband? I find this unbelieveable. I'm afarid that sure wouldn't be my response if I found out about an affair. I just bought the book on Divorce Busting, although unsure that is what I want at this time. Am I missing something here? Is the women to just keep taking all the blame and cowering like a terrified puppy? Sorry, I just don't understand. Thanks for letting me add my feelings to this matter. Just had too. I wish you all the best.