Thanks for taking a look at my thread. Again, I appreciate your thoughts. You mentioned above about H locking the door. It does mean something. I know this because when my H and I first seperated and he was really being awful and ugly he never locked the door. He would not lock the door when he came in or when he left. In fact, when I started coming home after our seperation and he was waiting there with our son I would turn the knob first and that would let me know if he was inside. When he was living with us he was anal about locking the door and making sure the shades were down. He stopped doing this until recently. Now when he comes over he makes a point to lower the shades (the way he used to) and lock the door when he leaves. It sounds goofy, but take it as a positive gesture. I just took it to mean that he does still care about us. I fantasize frequently about taking a black cast iron skillet and hitting H in the back of the head. I imagine like in the cartoons it will make a really loud almost ringing sound, H will see some stars, his eyes will roll and then he will go back to being his old self. It just blows my mind that they don't see what it does to the kids and the long lasting effects it could have. I am telling you I would not be surprised if we heard on the news that this alien group from outer space had been taken over people like some sort of invasion of the body snatchers. I look at my H daily like who the f-ck are you because you are so not the man I married and fell in love with. Keep your chin up and watch for that news report
