You mention your H is 37. That's prime age for mlc.
Don't waste time worrying if you "screwed up." We all do/did.
He wants to be alone, at least for now. Give him space. Let him innitiate contact with you. This will go against every fiber of your being at this time because you want him back. That feeling is normal but you can't fix this. I would bet he had dinner with you only because he feels guilty.
You say you are impatient. That must change. Patience is what you need most right now. It's not easy but you can do it.
You're going to have to learn to listen to your head and ignore you heart. You already have many of the answers you seek. He probably is "slowing down the calls and contact." Yes he probably "wanted to call and make you feel good" to relieve the guilt he was feeling and because deep inside they still care for us, but can't be around us now.
You must face your fear of losing him and do the oposite of what your emotions are acreaming at you to do.
You must detatch and let him go if you are to have any hope of saving your marriage. Study up on mlc. Learn what you are up against and do what you know you must, not what you feel you must do.
"Fear is the mind killer" Muad'Dib
Last edited by sleeper; 01/17/0803:11 AM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
