Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[SirPrizeMe]

Thanks for the concern - preparing myself for the worst.

She may be working toward sole custody, but I'm working to make sure that does not happen. I have plenty of reason to keep OM out of my kids' lives - he is an alcoholic screwup, and I'm pretty sure I could get him barred from them. I've talked to my attorney about this possibility, and it's not time to pursue this just yet.

The past week I sent her a letter stating my requirement for more time with the kids; this week I will file a motion in court to make the same request. This will compel her to respond substantively.

I'm watching the child custody part very closely.

Is she playing dirty pool? Maybe. Or maybe she is just operating from a place of self-contempt, self-doubt and confusion. Either way I am protecting myself.


I'm not happy with the sitch, but not angry. I'm always happy to see the kids. Delighted even. I value my time with them soooo much more now, that it is so limited.