Still sad but movin' on

[MonicaP]

Thanks Jeff and alamogirl for your advice.

Today I filed my last bit of paperwork. Now I just need to "remind" my STBXH.

He made it a point to tell me last Sunday that he has been working a lot, covering another position that he wants to get promoted into. I asked him if it would effect his income but he said they haven't written him a comp plan yet. Hmm, I think he's trying to lead into something he's going to drop later...that's his usual M.O.

Regardless, he needs to disclose his financial information to me in the final declaration and he's procrastinating.

You both sounded very sure that I should push the issue with him. I just want to ask one more time...do you think there's any possibility that his procrastination could be a sign of uncertainty about the divorce (atleast subconsciously)? And if so, would my pushing the issue just jump start him into action when he might benefit from more time???

I know, I know, I'm probably deluding myself. But I've heard stories of other couples where one spouse left to be with another person only to realize their mistake 2 + years later.

Well, it's been 2 years + for us and I guess I'm still hanging on to some minor shred of hope here. Totally crazy!

I don't have any indication that STBXH is unhappy with Ow, the opposite in fact. H seems to be trying to be more friendly with me, but I think it's just his way of trying to make everything "ok" - really, trying to make what he's done "ok".

Well, I am cordial and fairly nice with him, but sometimes I can't handle when he is "too nice" because it just makes me feel like he thinks it's all okay with me - and it's not. I still feel a lot of anger toward what he's done, and I still don't understand why it was so easy for him to leave our M.

I take it day by day. This weekend I have dinner plans with a group of girlfriends which I've been doing every month when S5 is with his dad. It helps. I don't think I'm ready to get involved with anyone new yet, but it's fun to look around.

So...I would really appreciate your thoughts on what I said about the reason for H's procrastination.

Take care and hang in there.