oh so complicated

[Michael Mc C]

The fact is, I'm sure, your H has been drawn away by the dream of a life with OW. My W has told me plenty of times that she was leaving for herself, not for OM. However, she never mentioned leaving before OM was around. What a coincidence.

I have to agree with your C. As much as it sucks, you need to back off a little and let your H go and be stupid. There are no guarantees so you MUST continue to work on yourself.