What do I need to do right now. ------------------------------- Take frank away from my wife, fire her, get some serious EMOTIONAL distance from her. Be coordial and friendly and that's it. Let God handle her life. She says she is 'in touch' with God, well then he can handle her issues. No more checking messages or phone logs. I almost did today but stopped myself. I don't need to know what she's doing any more because it will ONLY cause PAIN. Close the door to my heart and move forward. Once you let go they cant hurt you any more. Forgive myself for my faults in this relationship. It's past now and the future will be what I create. Live life on my own, doing what I want, what makes me happy. Take care of my kids. Realize that working on myself is not the same as giving up. Let go of the weight. I am not responsible for other peoples choices. I am only responsible for your own. Learn to let go and allow others to fail. Take personal responsibility when things don’t go as planned. Determine what work projects can be salvaged now and work on them instead of putting energy elsewhere. Re-engage myself in the hobbies I used to like. Get healthier. Let go of fear. Believe that there is no single person who can 'love me'. There are many as evidenced by the outpouring of love on the DB board. I'm not alone unless I choose to be.
What is a wife to me? --------------------- A person I cherish. Someone who can support me when I'm down by being a real partner and problem solving with me. Someone who can take the initiative when I can't. A friend who knows me well. Someone I can trust to never leave me when times are bad. A person who feels good about themself without needing me to give them that feeling all the time. A good lover. A person who values my love. A financial partner who doesn't expect me to fix everything and can come to the table when needed.
