Do I want it?... I think the important part is the "it". What kind of R will "it be?
...a return to the past sitch? Probably not what you are looking for!
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...an uncomfortable R where W is still working on her issues but you are together? Again, not for me.
...a reconciliation after W has had a chance to really work out all of her issues on her own? Maybe, but who knows who the person will be who comes out of this process and whether the two of you will at all be compatible as a married couple.
1. Is definite No , I have told W this and she agrees. 2. I would be reluctant unless W had gone a long way towards accepting the responsibility of working together to build a new R. 3. Depends on what appears at the end I guess.
Of Interest I got home yesterday and W had baked scones and prepared dinner for me and the oldest S , was taking the younger 2 for dinner at her place. Had got some stuff i needed including ear plugs that I use when on the Bike because I was getting low. Was nice and attentive , looking Hot and gave me a real hug and kiss when she left . After i slapped myself ( wake up ..Wake up! ) I figured it was an appology for treating me badly over the last few days. She would never use the S word ( sorry) but this is her way. I sent her a TXT message later saying Dinner was great and and thanking her for the effort.
Now this is a W I could happily live with and when she is like this it softens my resolve and I am sure she knows it.
Its easy when she is being abrasive and difficult to decide to keep moving on , then it seems just as she thinks she pushed to far she turns on the charm to try and real me back in.
The answer is of course to reward he for being good , i.e the thanks but to maintain my course in the same way that I would if she was being abusive to me ( the two extremes)
I sometimes wonder if there are some serious underlying issues going on that would provide a team of phycologists with enough material for a text book.
This is a wild ride , at least its not boring ! I might as well enjoy it.
