W less angry with me, but not ready for piecing

[Lanzo]

Hey

Maybe I should start a new thread "W very happy with me"..... (just kidding).

Well W is very happy, We've mounted this 32" flat screen TV on the wall in our very large kitchen, she can now watch her programs as she does her thing in there. Yes she's happy cos this was something we were planning to do a few years back but it just didn't happen (I didn't make it happen). W is now dusting off all of the home renovation plans we had from a few years back, she told me again she feels happy cos she feels we're getting back on track. I've repaired things in the bathroom, I've refitted the small bedroom. We're discussing things about the house and to her credit she's discussing them in a sensible manner, it will take 12 months for this, 2 years for that. She asked me was I happy, hmmm.. I said I'm getting there.

Why only getting there you may ask. Well there are so many thing that have happened, she has given me so much sh*t and I've taken it. I don't want the events of the last few months to go unspoken, I want things to be discussed and put to bed. I want her to open up and address them. I want her to realise that the family she's now telling me she holds so dear was nearly destroyed by her.

I don't want to move on and ignore all that has happened, I want her to own up and be responsible for her actions.

Also (and this was one of my old arguments which I will not bring up with her) she jumped into be with OM at the click of a finger, and for the last 3 year she's telling me I need to be patient.

Am I hoping for too much, or do I just go with her new found euphoria and see where it takes us. Need some one to talk to me about this, should I be grateful for what I've got or should I be demanding more.