I had lost you for a while! Sorry to hear about your current sitch. You were doing great with the PMA and GALing - I hope you haven't given stuff up.
I think I'm in with O-Mark above - lay off the overt wooing / courting bit which might be interpreted as pursuing. What would happen if you were to turn down the heat a bit and invest that effort in your PMA and GALing.
Look at the positives - she came clean to you - which she could easily not have done and she has gone to MC with you. I reckon they're both actions you can chalk up in your favour!
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years