Question on Living Situation

[kaycie]

I just wanted to say I know what you mean about the maritial home. I still live in our maritial home after over a year of seperation. it is VERY hard sometimes to just be here with all of the memories. Like I told him he has nothing missing when he is gone because he is in a new environment but the kids and I are still here in the house and their is an obvious void that his presence is no longer here. I have thought of moving selling the house but I just cannot justify doing it because we have 4 kids and for me to rent anything it would be just as much as the mortgage here so it doesn't really make sense to give up pur 10 years of equity here. Afterall my kids have grown up here. In fact I grew up here...LOL we bought this house when I was only 19 years old so my whole entire adult life has been in this house, we bought our kids home from the hospital to this house, we concieved our children here, we have been through alot here... making it harder for me to be here. in the meantime I have done some small projects since I have been alone here.. I bought new bedding for my room.. more pink and flowers... I also re-did the floor in the kids bathroom and redecorated it. I even redecorated the kids room on new years weekend. so those few little things of change have made it easier to cope. but it is still hard when I drive around the corner and his truck is missing from the driveway...when I go to the closet and his clothes are gone etc...

anyways I just wanted to say you are not alone..
from what I have been told if I want to reconcile I should not leave the maritial home. but in all honesty if this was a leased property I would have probably just left for my sanity...

I am a Real Estate Agent by profession and so many many nights I have thought about just going and and planting a for lease sign and a for sale sign in the front yard and jumping on board with whatever took the bait and getting the heck out of here but I have stayed here for the sake of my kids.

the other night I was outside and I realized that the 5 houses around me including mine are occupied by divorced or single people... should I consider that a curse or should I reach out to these people who have been through it for strength to cope. I know my enighbor (male) his wife left his abruptly without notice like my H so I know he probably has some good advice for me.. but no one knows that he doesn't live here except for a handful of people not even my family after this whole year!!! sigh