UNCOMFORTABLY NUMB:waiting 4 certified ltr !!

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Hi Tomato, Just ckecking around and i have to agree with jwm. you sound angry. Not that you don't have a right to be. I was angry w/ H when he asked me for D. Question: Does that anger come across when you speak to her? Is it helping you reach your goal?

As respects to boundries and tactfulness: she either respect boundries as respects to XH or she won't. Whose boundries are they? Are they yours or hers? Do both of you clearly know and understand the boundries? If they are your boundries, they are yours to enforce. I guess i'm just not clear. I think it's very important that everyone knows where their boundries lie and that they are responsible for enforcing their own.

For instance: one of my boundries: I will not continue in a M that is detrimental to my health and physical or mental well being or that of my children. H knows this. I told him this when I told him ILYBNILWY. Things have since gotten better, if things go back down the wrong path, it is MY job to make sure that he gets a reminder and that I do what i need to do to enforce that.

best not to try and figure out the mother/daughter R. I (as a daughter) will not even attempt to figure out the R between my own mother and my sister. Scary ground...

Keep a personal inventory of your thoughts and feelings. I keep a journal that I write how I'm feeling and why i think i feel that way at the time and my response and H reaction. Later i can go back and see how things have changed and which things trigger different reactions in myself. This can be a great time for you to take a deep look inside and learn about yourself.