Thanks, Ohio_Mark! I am going to start teaching Sunday School this weekend. I've been praying every day/night so if there is power in prayer, things should be going well soon! I've printed your rules and Theoden's advice and read them as often as possible, and now reading Divorce Remedy (only on page 75 of that though because I've been busy trying to GAL)!
I saw my therapist today and she was nice to see. Always positive about me, thinks my H is a "jerk" and mean from things I've told her. But I told her before the affair he wasn't. Well that's not entirely true, but he was nice before this past year or so, for about 20 years anyway. I think maybe job stress or MLC has changed him...If we do reconcile, I would want to do marriage counseling. He started individual therapy today for his anger issues so even he realizes some of his recent problems.