As Burg said, this is the essence of what is happening
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Your new relationship with yourself is still unfolding. A new relationship with your wife will almost undoubtedly unfold as well. Whether or not that new relationship is capable of supporting a marriage has yet to be determined.
Just getting this position clean, clear, straight in your own mind will have repercussions in the outside world. Don't know what those will be, but things are now different and they cannot go back to the way they were. She may surprise you and she may not. But now YOU know where YOU stand, and that's a subtle shift that is already causing ripples in The Force. I can feel it over here.
I'm not going to hug you this time... instead here's a firm handshake and a kiss on each cheek (possibly followed by a snappy salute).
ETA: Re what Journey said, I wouldn't try to change mrs. hd's mind. You've already spent years doing that. I don't think she's worthy of you. When I joined this BB in September 2004, you were getting ready to move to the basement. Have things substantially improved since then? YOU have improved in self-knowledge clarity, but has the R improved? Sorry, but I don't think so. It's like my sitch: in accepting the circumstances, you have to accept the fact that it isn't working. Your realization of that may or may not evoke a gigantic change in her. But if she's true to form... [sigh]
