MC session #2 today. My strategy was to get her to vent about everything she felt was wrong in the marriage. I didn't want to make things worse by defending myself, accusing her, etc. So...I admitted some things: I'm not a good communicator -- working to improve, have not been kind and understanding all the time, etc., etc. Essentially, I fell on my sword with flourish. W gobbled it up. It was like a cathartic for her. So for those of you in MC with an MLC spouse, this might be a good approach. She was talkative afterwards, and even agreed to have lunch with me.
For those of you going through this, I've found mid-afternoon to be a really hard time. That's when I feel the world crashing-in and I feel emotional...have to excuse myself and go sit in my car and sob for a few minutes then get back to the desk. Don't know why it's that time of day....
One thing W said in MLC that I hadn't heard before: "I don't know if I have the energy to become emotionally attached to him again." That's a beauty of a line, huh?
Detach, detach. GAL, GAL. I've decided I'm going to look for some volunteer opportunities to get me out and meeting others and keep me from sulking around the house.
Boy, this hurts bad. My heart goes out to anyone else going through this. We need a friggin' support group, people!!
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
