Next week she leaves on a cruise with 40 family members for 12 days ( I was invited but declined back in July for i don't like cruises and didn't want to spend 12 straight days with anyone).
I am hurting really, really bad and would appriciate any help anyone can offer.
I'm guessing that she would expect you not to go on the cruise. that she knows you hate that sort of thing.
So... in that case, something different for you to do...... would be to go on the cruise. And figure out how you can actually get some enjoyment out of it.
But dont do it, if you cant get your head in gear about how to actually enjoy it, and "be a part of her life". To support her, in what SHE thinks is important. Rather than an attitude of, "I dont like that, i wont support you on it; so you go do what you want, i'll just do my own thing".
So.. that's one possibility for you.
On the flip side, I agree with the other folks, that there could also be some benefit from the time apart.
Trying for the cruise would be a risky thing. Only worth while, if you could really be a positive person during it.
Last edited by Dom R; 01/16/0807:38 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
