I don't know if we cry more because we miss them or because we know that they are missing out on (US!).
I've been with my H 1/2 my life and you've been with yours 29 yrs. IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH IT. You don't invest that kind of time in something and just walk away with OW (or OM).
I'd like to show my S's that in an R if the going gets tough you don't throw in the towel. You roll up you sleeves and work on things! I want to be a good example for them. I want them to at least realize that I did everything I could for our family and my M. I won't quit! I'm sure you're the same.
Read your thread - pole dancing!!! Where are you going to put up your pole so you can practice? Somewhere H can see? Can't you just see the look on his face when you come home with a brass pole and install it in your bedroom?! Makes me smile just thinking about it.