Do you think you could get your husband to read a book? I was thinking about "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. Your H seems like a typical "nice guy" as described in the book (not very nice at all, BTW). I say this because I see alot of my old self in your H. The book would help you better understand the hows and whys of a great deal of his seemingly weird behaviour too.
LM
Lucky me, I could have been someone else FOREVER! Whew, that was close!
