You've driven a stake in the ground. Your old relationship with yourself is dead. Your old relationship with your wife is dead.
Thanks for the vampiric references. Actually, I was trying to remember yet another Buddhist story, something about receiving a gift, and imagining it already lost. Or maybe it was about a father and son working in a field and the son was struck by lightning and killed, and the father didn't grieve because we're all going to die someday...or maybe I'm confused. Anyway, the point is that all things change, all living things die, nothing is static, so don't develop attachments to the way things are now. Perhaps one of the ways that helps me do that is to think, as you said it, that the old relationship is dead and a new one is unfolding.
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You've written the letter; don't deliver the message until you're ready.
