Wow Hdog that is powerful. It definitely comes across as honest and sincere. I still hope there is some way it doesn't have to come down to that for you but I agree that if it does, you need to be able to give that letter in complete sincerity, with no expectations from her and with acceptance that it is the end of your marriage.
However I hope that IF, by some chance, the end of the marriage does get through to her how important your issues are, you can be open to trying. I wouldn't expect it by any means but you never know.
That despite what she might say, her behavior is the clearest message of this aversion. Her unwillingness to lend any validity to this need of mine, and, to the contrary, her consistent scorn of it, provides support for my acceptance of her as the person who she is now, and has been before.
This is key IMO. I don't think you seem particularly scornful of her aversion to sex. Which is good because it's hard to say what causes that in a person however I think it's also understandable that you would want you and her to work through those issues as a couple. And her unwillingness to see your needs as valid made that impossible which is truly sad.
Good luck with everything and keep the great attitude. I am sorry that it has come to this for you and your family.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
