craig,
i am very sorry to hear the sad news. i can not help but think that our happiness is directly linked to what our spouses decide to do. this is why it is so important to gal. i know this but i have not been able to do it properly yet.
you know since i discovered this forum it is obvious that i have grown fond of several people and it hurts like hell when one of them has a setback. you are a man of faith and have asked the lord to guide you through this i am sure. i sincerely hope your prayers will be answered.