I have said ALL along - the way I have reacted and the way my WAS treated me/trusted me you would have thought that I HAD HAD THE AFFAIR!!!
This DBing is not easy - your first post seems so much stronger -you GALing and not forcing her to do anything, but your second response you seem like you want to pursue her - be careful or you may just push her away. Every sitch is diff and depending on what she needs from you should be how you go with it.
You are to make yourself better to attract her back. You CANNOT control the timeline on this (unless you quit) and your cannot control your W or her feelings or her actions. MC can be tricky - sometimes a rehashing of old stuff. Retrouvaille does not solve the past it gets you to see each others point of view and how to move foward.
Sounds like your W is not over the addiction of the OP - this will take some time but each time they talk/hook up it resets the clock on getting over the OP!! This is why you see her coming towards you at one moment and pushing you away the next...
Hang on your rollercoaster ride is FAR from over!!
HB
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