day by day

[Heartbroken]

LWB,

In response to your last comment - Yes, H fails to see the hurt he caused. In fact, yesterday in one sentence he took NO blame for this summer, and then in the next sentence he says "It was my poor choices". ???? ---

My H - when he was still in the fog - said he felt we had enough extreme issues to warrent the affair. But when we went to Retrouvaille he said the A only made things worse exponentially - if he had just come to me about his issues/unhappiness then we would not have been in so deep...this caused him and I a lot of pain....

So you cannot even really take what he is saying as what he really believes - he is still talking confused and is spewing the alien BS - for now. My H is finally starting to seem like himself - even my best friend noticed this at the bar on Sat. eve - he is more comfortable and carefree (it's very stressful carrying on their double lives). The thing I worry about now if falling into old ruts and patterns of our old M - I WILL NOT LET THIS HAPPEN. I will never go back to the way it was before the bomb...

So please take everything he says with a grain of salt...and keep watching for those baby steps!!

HB