She wants to do kid transfers off-site. In parking lots. In malls. Though I think this is silly, I haven't fought this or argued. But it really is impractical when going to see a movie, for example, and we haven't decided which movie yet. I can't bring them to "my place" to research it. I can't research it in the car. Sheesh.
Last night is a great example. S11 has wrestling practice. The other 3 kids "tag along" and sit for 1.5 hours, because it is a single-parent home. They are so bored. Last couple weeks, I met the W and kids at practice, took the other 3 out for goofing around, ice cream shop. We just get silly and play and have fun. We run and giggle and tickle and tell jokes.
When we met last night, W wanted to tell me about her day. It had snowed, the roads were icy and the schools were closed in the morning. So they all played in the snow all day. She offered all this. I did not inquire, but I listened. Great for her! Glad she enjoyed the day!
Afterwards, the kids were all sillyhappylaughing. I kissed and hugged them all. D6 was pulling W toward me, telling her to "back up! back up!" She wanted to keep playing together. S11 called "goodbye" to me several times. Since he was at practice I didn't get to spend time with him.
I left directly, but not quickly. No looking back.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
