ntl, I left a message for you on my thread about my own experience with this issue. I agree with RealJourney, wholeheartedly, your husband is stepping up to the plate big-time, and from what you have written about him, he does seem like a man worthy of putting a bit of work into! (he sounds like my own H)
I did a lot of research into the porn issue. It is huge. This is one of the most important un-talked-about issues in the country today (and I used to think it was US foreign policy that took top prize). Porn is emasculating a whole generation of young men. For some reading, google for "The Impotence Pandemic" by Judith Reisman. She has testified before Congress on the porn issue -- little good will it do though, porn is Big Business, and it is mainstream big business investors who hold the stake.
Also see the website, ObscenityCrimes.org Dr. Mary Anne Layden (U of P professor) has an article there: "If Pornography Made Us Healthy, We Would Be Healthy By Now". ntl, what is happening to your husband is not uncommon. It is as if our men have been preyed upon, have been made ill for profit. Your marriage is worth working on. Also, you might want to look into the idea of couples therapy with a credentialled, experienced sex therapist -- likely you can get a contact through SAA.
hijack to cat03 -- thank you for your posts on this thread, I found them personally very helpful.
