I would suggest that you stop "courting" her. You need to go on with your life as if she will not be a part of it any more. You need to let her pursue you. If you pursue her (by "courting"), you will never catch her.
Give her space and GAL. Also, I would suggest ending the separation as soon as possible. She will be less likely to see changes in you and see you GALing if you are separated.
And fair? This is divorcebusting. Nothing is fair. Get used to it.
